Monday, February 1, 2010

What Do You Really Want?

Successful people spend more time and energy on what they want and barely on what they can't. Conversely, the rest do the opposite.

To dream is to answer the question, "What do I really want?"
Photo credit: "Dream Fairy" by Alexandria LaNier

You want to be successful? Dream again. Ignore the worm inside you that sighs, "You ask, 'What do I really want?' What has that got to do with anything?"

Here are three thoughts to empower yourself to dream once again...

1. To dream is to want

To dream is to give an answer to the question, "What  do I really want?" I don't know how you would answer that question.

But in my experience, a powerful exercise that draws these things out of you is to list down everything that comes to mind. Get a legal pad and list down a hundred things.

Here's a mind juggler that I've personally used, which you might find useful:
  • list down 20 things you want to own (e.g. car or diamond bracelet)
  • list down 20 things you want to see (you can't own them but you just want to see them -- e.g., dinosaur fossils or the captivating love letter sent by Prince William)
  • list down 20 places you want to visit (be unique here, don't go with the crowd just to be "in")
  • list down 20 people you want to meet (again, be unique here)
  • list down 20 things you want to be (e.g. a ballerina or a martial artist in the order of Bruce Lee)

2. A dream is personal

I suggest you don't go around town showing everyone you meet your list. It's because dreaming is personal, much like what you do when you're alone in the toilet, whatever that may be. It's important to you, but others may not be as interested. Deal with it, coz it's a good thing.

Still you might meet someone who has different ideas about things you've listed, knowingly or unknowingly. They see that you're very interested in going to Mars and they think you've gone nuts. Be friends with them but don't give weight to their rantings. They're ranting about their own life, not you.

Share your dreams only with people who believe you and support you. Someone told me this and I don't know for sure if this is true -- but Neil Armstrong accordingly was told by his mother that if anyone would make it to the moon, it would be him. We already know he landed on the moon, right? But her mother told him that when he was eight.

3. A dream is an inner force, or an inner fire

Not everything will go well when you dream. Finances can be tight and you have to make tough choices. Some people may hate you for acting differently and you just have to drop them from the people you want to be with on Thanksgiving Day.

But in the middle of all that, the fire inside you lingers. That's the sign of a real dream. Fads, infatuations, fleeting desires all fade away.

The dreams of our ancestors yesterday are our realities today. Dream today and leave a legacy.


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